Over the past couple of months, we’ve asked this question: What has your mother taught you? What did you learn from your mother?
And we received many, many varied and interesting responses. Some of these responses expanded into full blown stories, others are powerful one liners. What all these super interesting stories and responses have in common are timeless lessons. Some of the lessons feel good, others are cautionary, and yet others are straight up bitter. And if you’ve followed this space for a while, you would know that Misskorang is not a place for ostriches. We don’t bury our heads in the sand and pretend the world isn’t happening around us. So we will tell it as we were told, the good, the bad and the ugly.
Over the next few days leading up to mother’s day, we will bring you these experiences as shared by our generous, wonderful readers. So buckle up, dear reader, it is about to be an exhilarating ride; high highs and low lows.
Mother taught me to be strong. To not allow myself to be trodden over. To work hard. To believe in children, she believed in me.
Obaapa, Ghana
What my mother taught me is that it is okay to occupy the space you’re in. I learned that by watching her. My mother is the kind that is never shy to ask for what she needs to be comfortable. She has always been unapologetic about asking for money, expecting comfort and respect, telling people to back off and just doing things that were good for her and served her interests. She always told me, “If you pretend you don’t need anything, people will give you nothing.”
So when I started dating, I let my dates know I was here to occupy my position as girlfriend/wife. And that included expectations and boundaries. It has served me well because I am in a very healthy relationship spanning twelve years.
Coco, USA.
My mother taught me that if you stay with a person who repeatedly abuses you, they will one day murder you.
My parents had the most volatile relationship. It was as unhealthy as unhealthy can be. My mother had attachment issues, she didn’t believe she could survive on her own, so even when my father cheated on her in her face, and pummeled her with blows, she kept ‘loving’ him. She repeatedly forgave him, they made up, had a great relationship for two and a half days, and then back to square one. One day he pointed his shotgun at her in a drunken rage, and he pulled the trigger. He called my aunt to tell her, “Your sister’s brains are all over my couch.”
Island Girl, UK
What I learned from my mom: if you smoke packs of cigarettes a day, spanning years, your lungs will give up.
My mother was a chain smoker. Since my childhood, I saw her smoke cigarette after cigarette. She smoked way into my adulthood. And then she developed lung cancer. She couldn’t even make it to my wedding, she was too weak with chemotherapy to stand or sit. A week after my wedding she died. She was only fifty-three. She did not get to meet her incredible grandchildren.
Shaunie, USA
I have learnt a whole life from my mother. I have learnt how to build a home and build up a family in the Lord. I have learnt to always move by faith even when I don’t have the means , I should just take a step further and things will catch up and yes it always does.
Dumeh, Ghana
I learned from my mother that the best way to create discord, separation and disunity amongst one’s children is to compare them relentlessly against each other. And the best way to raise assholes is to tolerate their bullying and disrespect.
My mother had her favorites among her six children. Three could do no wrong and the other three, Lord were we demons in her eyes. “Look at your sister, look at your brother, be like him, be like her.” That is how she created tension and competition and hatred. Two of my siblings haven’t spoken in decades. In her old age, she laments the lack of unity and how we don’t bother to help each other.
“Those who criticize this generation forgets who raised it.”
Oshew_Heat, Ghana
My mother taught me the importance of creating memories.
She made sure to create memories with me and my brother when we were young. And it wasn’t anything costly. We created simple family times and traditions. For example she always read to us when we were little. When we got older and could read on our own, she created a time on Saturday nights when she would read to us. We called it a Saturday night special and it was always a lovely time. Even our father made time to come and listen. My mother is late, but those intentional memories, they live on!
Darling, Ghana
My mom said to me, “Live your life for the experiences, do not always chase the money – if the money was meant to come, it will come eventually. You are not in competition with anybody.”
I was chasing a career and hardly had any time for anything. It took me quite some time before I fully understood the message. It helped me to look differently on my priorities and reduced the pressure I used to put on myself and my career, to a much healthier level. I am now happier and more balanced.
Asana, Nigeria
My mom is an eccentric, irreverent woman. She says whatever is on her mind and does things her own way.
She taught me to never be encumbered by society’s expectations, norms and double standards. Her favorite words to me were, “Stop giving phucks about opinions that don’t write your paycheck.”
I finally began to listen and practice this and my life is simpler and happier.
Paris, Australia
My mother has no filter. She tells all her business, especially to me. Some of her ‘business’ have softly traumatized me. So I’ve learned to zip my mouth and not be like her.
Once she visited me, and was helping me clean my house. As we laid a sheet on my bed she blurted out, “You know I love you Dad but I don’t like when he comes in my mouth.”
Like Mom, what the hell? I could not get that image out of my mind’s eye for months!
Tripp, Canada
I learned from my mother that a good healthy amount of sex is good for the brain and a marriage.
When I got married, my mother called my husband and I and said, “My only advice, a lot of healthy doses of sex! That’s how I kept your Daddy.”
I tried it, it works! Sixteen great years of marriage.
Asanteba, Ghana.
To Be Continued.
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At MissKorang we strive to bring you life stories that teach timeless life lessons and, some of those stories, like this one, are real life stories submitted by our readers and shared with their permission. Identifying attributes are edited out to protect our contributors’ privacy.Can you leave your thoughts with these kind people in the comments? If you want to send us your experience, email us at submissions@misskorang.com. Or submit using this anonymous form. Please do not reproduce any part of this content without permission from us. Our stories contain affiliate links. When you click and make a purchase, we may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.
At MissKorang we strive to bring you life stories that teach timeless life lessons and, some of those stories, like this one, are real life stories submitted by our readers and shared with their permission. Identifying attributes are edited out to protect our contributors’ privacy.Can you leave your thoughts with these kind people in the comments? If you want to send us your experience, email us at submissions@misskorang.com. Or submit using this anonymous form. Please do not reproduce any part of this content without permission from us. Our stories contain affiliate links. When you click and make a purchase, we may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.
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