How I ruined my marriage

My first marriage lasted a year and half, and ended in divorce. The trouble started barely six months into the marriage. And I have spent a lot of time and effort making sure the world knows it was my ex-wife’s fault. But to be honest, I played a huge part in the demise of my marriage. If I am being honest, I ruined my marriage with my toxic masculinity. I am sharing this in hopes of reaching young men, those who are willing to hear me, that kindness and patience can win battles brute force and egotism cannot.

I met Felicia at a conference in San Francisco in the early 2000s. I am a geologist and she, a geospatial architect. In a conference of hundreds of people, there were a few black faces, and even fewer black women. So imagine my utmost surprise and pleasure when I spoke to Felicia and realized she was Ghanaian born and raised just like me.

We got along really well and by the end of the conference, we were good friends. Felicia, I realized, was super intelligent and confident. Felicia has the type of confidence that requires any man in her life to be self-assured and well grounded. To many men, the kind of confidence and self-belief Felicia has is arrogance.

But I believed myself to not be many men. I was quite convinced I had it together;  I was at the pinnacle of my mining career, I was making good money, I was in good health, I felt good about myself. I never once thought I would be the kind of man whose fragile ego would lead him to feel upended by his woman’s success.

And so I courted Felicia. And then I married her. Then I ruined my marriage, because I required my wife to dumb down, and she said, “ To hell with you.”

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