Who Online Predators Are
Online predators, those people who target children online to prey on them, to sexually exploit and abuse their innocence. Suffice to say they disgust me. These people are usually adults who pretend to be children on the internet in order to hook a child. They will attempt to coerce a child into having sex or share sexually explicit photos of themselves. And the sad part is sometimes they succeed.
Did you know that some of these sex offenders online wear diapers? They do so in order not to take bathroom breaks. Thus allowing them to dedicate every fibre of their being engaging children.
Sexual predators usually groom their victims online by pretending to be kids themselves. They feign concern and affection to gain their victim’s trust. Then they gather intimate personal information from the child. After establishing fake trust, they may go ahead and request inappropriate photos (read photos of your child’s privates or of your child doing sexually explicit things). These images may end up on the dark web, for sale on child pornography sites. Sometimes the images may be used to blackmail the unsuspecting child into unwanted sexual activity. Did you hear about that Catholic priest who obtained pornographic images of children in his parish and used those images to blackmail and pimp the children out to other monster priests like himself? That is a classic example.
How Online Sexual Predators Do What They Do
Online predators have been known, more often than not, to graduate their predation to full- blown trafficking after successfully sinking their claws into their victims. Trafficked children are usually first groomed online before they’re stolen and sent into a life of sexual exploitation among other things. There is emerging a new trend of trafficking where the victims aren’t stolen from home at all. In-fact, their abusers would rather have them in the safety of their parents’ home. They would then direct the child to do their bidding, by the same tactics of coercion and blackmail, and parents may be none the wiser. Law enforcement has coined a new term, sextortion.
It is one thing for a child to go looking for trouble. And it is another for trouble to purposefully stalk and snare a child. Online predators usually target their victims based on the content of their social media posts. Example, is the child lonely, being bullied in school, do they have low self esteem, how strong is their relationships with the adults in their lives?
Online predators would usually go for the ‘easy pickings’. Those kids who are much more vulnerable to be preyed on. But that is not to say all other children are not at risk; online sexual abuse, child exploitation and trafficking transcends economic, social and racial barriers. The rise of smartphones and anonymity provided by the internet has radically changed the landscape of predation, both online and offline.
So those are a few snapshots of the scale of evil we’re dealing with. But it isn’t all doom and gloom, because parents and guardians can take some proactive steps to put layers of security in place to protect their kids.
SOME NECESSARY STEPS YOU CAN TAKE
HAVE THE TALK:
Talk to your kids about the internet. Discuss the good, the bad and the ugly. Just like we have age appropriate discussions about sex, drugs, money and race, parents should discuss the opportunities as well as dangers on the internet. Explain to kids who and what sexual predators are. Tell kids about what grooming tactics look and feel like. And warn them about the danger these online predators pose to them and the entire family. Discuss topics like sexting, social media profiles and the disclosure of sensitive information.
INSTALL AN INTERNET SAFETY SOLUTION:
Bark is dedicated to helping keep kids safe online and in real life with their groundbreaking products for families and schools. Through intelligent monitoring, they’ve helped prevent school shootings and suicide attempts. They have also alerted to signs of cyberbullying, adult content, child predators, self-harm, and depression. In a nutshell, Bark helps families manage and protect their children’s digital lives.
Their award-winning service monitors 30+ of the most popular apps, social media platforms, and chat rooms. It looks for signs of issues like cyberbullying, suicidal ideation, online predators, threats of violence, and more. Plus, Bark now offers web filtering and screen time management tools. This aims to empower families to set healthy limits around the websites and apps their kids can access. It also sets limits to when they can visit them. Click to try it free for 7 days or visit Bark.us to learn more.
And keeping with point number one above, have a talk about a system like Bark. Let your children know you’re not spying on them, but rather doing your parental duty of keeping them safe.
I will go as far as saying if your child has a smartphone, or if kids are ever left alone at home with access to the internet, then you must get this parental control software.
KEEP COMPUTERS AND PHONES IN COMMUNAL AREAS:
According to the United States of America’s FBI, most videos and photos used in sextortion cases are taken in the privacy of bedrooms or bathrooms. Taking away this privacy by requiring the use of gadgets in communal areas reduces this risk. Use of phones and computers in communal areas may also work to prevent exposure to pornograhy and lewd chat room discussions. Kids would most likely not entertain inappropriate behaviors online when they have parents or other siblings for company.
CREATE A FAMILY ONLINE SAFETY CONTRACT:
An online safety contracts should state all the dos and donts while online. Here are some rules you could include in the contract:
- If you don’t know them in real life, do not befriend them online
- Do not post the name of your school
- Do not post our home address.
- Specifically state what social media platforms are allowed according to age.
- Never download anything from unknown sources
- Choose a gender neutral screen name
- Stop all communication with anyone asking personal questions and sexually suggestive questions.
- Never agree to meet an online friend in person, ever.
- Children under 18 should share a family email address.
- It should state how much screen time is allowed per day or week.
Commit to the contract as parents. And then require children to commit too. This creates expectations and sets boundaries. A system like Bark can be very helpful in enforcing a Family Online Safety Contract.
ACTIVELY MONITOR ONLINE ACTIVITY:
Monitor and limit children’s time on the internet. Also pay close attention to what times of the day they spend most on the internet. Excessive amounts of time spent online may be a sign of a problem. Bark can help you successfully do this. Click here to learn more.
The digital age has brought with it many advancements. But on the backdrop of that advancement lurks evil of which magnitude parents cannot begin to imagine. And security almost always seem to take a backseat to cybercrime . So here is to hoping you’ll take and apply some of the recommendations here to protect your family.
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These are some great tips. I am definitely going to check out Bark. My kids are still young, but never too early to teach them how to be safe!
Thanks for visiting. I think Bark is awesome!
Great tips, thank you for sharing!
Thank you for appreciating this topic on online predators
So scary! I’m glad my kids grew up before they got into the internet. Seems as though all kids are connected nowadays.
Thanks for addressing this.
True. I grew up without internet too. These times are interesting and troubling but with some attention and monitoring families will be fine
I have 4 boys and this has been a big concern for us. Thank you for theses great tips!
I am glad you find these tips on how to protect your family from online predators useful.
I have 4- and 6-year-olds and have already started worrying about this. Excellent info, thank you!
You are welcome. And thanks for visiting. It is okay to be concerned. Try and put boundaries in place, they work!
I have 2 young girls and worry everyday about the future and making sure we as parents prepare them with the best knowledge possible. We will always have an open door policy that encourages them to come to us if they are unsure. I feel our kids are forced to grow up much faster than 30 years ago when there were predators but online and social media really wasn’t an additional layer parents had to think about. Thank you for sharing!
Welcome Melissa. Open lines of communication is a great, necessary step
I am so scared of this, especially if I have future daughters. This is so helpful.
Great Info. Monitoring children online is a must considering the crafty ways hackers and predators are gaining access to our children.
Very true. Even the seemingly innocent games are not safe anymore
Thank for the tips Mom.
Cyber predators and criminals feed on personal/sensitive informations we put out there (on the internet). I believe your tips will be very useful to the “gullible” elderly as well.
Yes. Online grooming stages present itself in many forms. It is imperative to know what signs to look out for.
Great Info. Monitoring children online is a must considering the crafty ways hackers and predators are gaining access to our children.
Thank you for this much needed article..alerts you as a parent.
I am glad you found it useful
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Geat suggestions. Parents actively involved instead of pawning kids off on screens goes a long way in protecting our children.
Great tips, we really need to teach our kids about this as soon as they are using the computer, and keep reminding them of what to look out for
I agree. These online predators are relentless and wicked!
Very well written on an important topic! So much evil out there!
SO MUCH EVIL WE CANNOT OVERLOOK. Online security is a must for families.
Wow this is such a scary reality! Always be cautious.
One can never be too careful with online predators.
Fantastic tips and advice.. this is such a scary subject that truly needs to be addressed!
I agree! We need to take cybersecurity seriously, especially when it comes to the issue of online predators and the risk of trafficking.
It’s a very sick and scary world we live in now with online predators. Thanks for sharing this information.
Some great tips on how to keep kids safe online….it’s a scary world.
I have to admit I am so glad my kids did not start out with the internet in their lives. They were the first generation and we were pretty paranoid. Parents today have no idea what their kids are up to.
It’s so important to protect the youth from online predators and bullies. It’s so hard to know who they’re talking to. Thank you for spreading awareness.
It is a conversation that we have all the time with our kids.
Definitely useful information. I am a paranoid mother when it comes to the internet and even YouTube channels. So many disgusting predators out there. Thank you for sharing your tips.
Such important points for those with young children!
Yes. I didn’t grow up with internet or smartphones, sometimes i shudder for my kids…
This is an great article and I never heard of Bark and I just signed up for it, I have 3 teenage kids and it’s hard motoring everything.
I am glad you have taken proactive steps to properly monitor your kids’ online activity. Bark is well worth it I promise.
Pure evil!
I hadn’t heard of Bark but I’ll look into it. My two older kids are still in elementary school but they’re doing distance learning and I’m loving that they’re on the school’s devices. There are lots of limits as to what they can do on the device. We are also in Cub Scouts and they have a training for online predators as well as in person predators. I don’t want to scare my kids, but I don’t want them to be caught unaware either!
You can discuss online safety and online predators in child appropriate language to make them aware. Knowledge is power
Wonderful information here about protecting our kids online. Thanks so much for the tips!
Now that my kids are doing so much school work online, this has become a real concern. Thank you for the tips.
Such a scary world that we are living in. Thank you for actively trying to combat this!
Excellent info. The internet can be a dangerous place for children. It’s so important to have frequent conversations with kids and help them stay aware.
This is the first I’m hearing of the diapers – how disgusting!
this is disturbing. Thanks for helping protect kids
So important! I’d love to hear your thoughts on how we can begin to protect our kids even when they are not online, but we are….. we kinda talk about it here
My son desperately wants to start playing Minecraft online. It’s a huge fear for me whom he might meet online. It’s so hard to tell as an adult if you’re about to be tricked into something bad. No kid is looking to get into trouble, just meet new friends. It’s so easy to fall prey. It just takes one bad apple pretending to be friends.
May God protect our kids from all type of monsters, yet safety measures are also essential, thanks alot for sharing helpful tips.